Thoughts and Other Things

It’s such a common mistake to think that you understand something completely when you only understand it in part. It’s a mistake that can mean living a life that is only half of the life that you’re supposed to live. I learnt this while study Ruth. After she had met Boaz and received favour from him, she went back to her mother-in-law Naomi who was pleasantly surprised by what she had gleaned. She knew that it had something to do with the owner of the field who had to have taken notice of her, so she asked where Ruth had worked. (This struck my heart, I realized that my success has little to do with me and my hard work, and plenty to do with the field I’m working in. If I am in the right field, the one I’m called for, the Owner shows favour to me by throwing serendipities along my path. This doesn’t mean me working isn’t necessary, it is, Ruth worked alright; but it means I always get more than what I worked for. Sometimes our frustration with being successful isn’t a reflection of m

I recently finished a very moving novel by Naomi Ragen titled The Sacrifice of Tamar. It was interesting, so intriguing, and so insightful (it’s an old read, but my local library never disappoints with their fiction section). No it is not about any of the Tamar’s we find in the pages of the Bible but of a Haredi (ultra-Orthodox) Jewish woman living in America who has the unthinkable happen to her early on in her marriage that later on pops up as a bitter reminder of her hidden past. As I read it, I recalled a lesson I had back in Dogmatics class (it has nothing to do with dogs, but everything to do with dogma, i.e. doctrine) in college where our lecturer was exploring the different views concerning the relationship between Christianity and Judaism. Others said Christianity was an extension, or continuation, of Judaism, while others said Christianity was something completely different from Judaism. What made me recall this lesson is how I just couldn’t relate with Tamar’s God. Tamar

Today is ‘Mane Monday in the natural world. Instead of crushing on gorgeous men of all shades and colours, we crush on hair, our hair, our glorious, gravity-defying, black hair. So since its Mane Monday, and my one year ‘hairnniversary’ this week, I thought I’d share my hair regimen with you. Products I use Upfront, I’d like to say I’m a product junkie so I hope you’ll keep up. I’m not so strict when it comes to ingredients in the products I use, as long as they treat my hair well, so some natural hair gurus might crucify me for some of the products I use. 1. Dr Miracle Curl Care shampoo and conditioner I use these two to wash and condition my hair 1-2 times a week. I absolutely love it. I use warm water when washing the shampoo off and cold water when washing the conditioner off. I read somewhere that the warm water helps get rid of stubborn product build up in both the scalp and hair while the cold water helps the strands to keep all of the conditioner it receives. I buy a

It’s wedding season! (and I don’t have one booking, lol). Weddings are absolutely beautiful, it’s always a pleasure attending one. But there’s something that gets to me with today’s society’s fascination (if not obsession) with weddings (personally I blame wedding programs like OPW). I feel like we put more emphasis on the event and not the institution. I say this because there’s not much effort made to get people ready for marriage compared to the tools available to get you ready for your wedding day; I bet you wedding planners are busier than premarital counsellors. Why this concern? Because marriage is such a complex thing. So complex it has people studying it, thick books written about it, seminars held about it. Jimmy Evan’s entire ministry focuses on marriage alone. My past two assignments have been centred on marriage and family counselling. I’ve gone through books and books all trying to figure out how to solve problems that arise in marriage relationships. There are over twe