Thoughts and Other Things

I recently completed my research project which centerd around the impact of African Culture on the marriage experience of Christian Africans. A number of studies have revealed that there is a decline in marriage rate and an increase of age at first marriage amongst black South Africans. This means they are not getting married as much as they used to and that they are older when they marry than before. A contributing factor to this has been identified as the payment of ‘bridewealth’, popularly known as ‘ilobolo’. So I thought I’d share my thoughts and findings on the subject with you guys and by so doing provide answers to a few questions that many tend to have. Research done among contemporary Zulu society 1 unearthed that 60% of men regarded ilobolo as an impediment to marriage. This meant they couldn’t marry when they wanted as a result of high ilobolo costs, which explains the increase of age at first marriage. Some, especially in urban areas, resort to cohabitation, which e...

Taking classes at gym has brought me to the realization that balance is a given for most of us, but its strength needs to be built otherwise it diminishes over the years, which is why older people are more prone to falling. My body’s balance is now quite good, thanks to Magda my fantastic instructor, but I’m afraid I can’t say the same about my ability to balance things in my life. I had a breakdown due to my inability to balance things (adulting can get so much guys) and was whining to Sam about it. I gave her what I thought could be a solution to my problems, which was a rather dramatic change type of solution. She dropped a truth bomb on me. She said that the answer wasn’t in changing things, but in upping my skill in balancing things because things would always be there and are likely to increase as I grow older (I know, someone needs to book her for a TEDtalk). Balance is defined as an even distribution of weight enabling someone/something to remain upright and steady (Oxfo...