Conversations with my father
These past few days I have not been liking this whole ‘living at home’ business, so to calm me down, I counted my blessings (plus went on a killer shopping-spree). One of the things I’m very grateful for in the time spent back home is the growth in my relationship with my dad. I’m so blessed to be growing up with a father, and one who is so present and active in my daily life. Going to college, our relationship was sinking faster than the Titanic since we couldn’t see eye-to-eye pertaining what I should be studying. But God has restored and revived it since my return, but it didn’t come easy, it took a lot of forgiving.
One thing he and me have in common is our talkativeness. Boy do we talk, and about so many things; politics, religion, technology, education, you name it. But one which has a secret place in my heart is his advices on marriage and choosing a life partner. Well at first he announced that none of his girls were going to marry, and for a month he actually made us believe him. But it wore off the more he faced reality. In our conversations, I love how he is so open and transparent, more especially about his days as a young man. I also love it every time he re-tells how he ended up with my mother (emphasis on the ‘re-tell’, he’s growing older, so he tends to repeat his stories). But what I love most about all he says is that it gives me a clear picture of what he desires for me. It might not be that ‘tall, light and handsome’ picture I’ve painted for myself, but it is so much better in so many ways. This has caused that, on top of being kept in purity by God’s might, I desire all the more to wait for my prince-charming. Because it is not so easy to settle for less and disappoint him when I know exactly what his expectations are. This helps a lot in the face of temptation. The guy can be as hot as Nate Parker and sing like Brenden, but if he aint what my Daddy in heaven sent, nor the picture my dad painted, I’ll pass.
My friend was inspired to have a girls-dads service at our kids camp cause she realized that so many girls fall prey to these sugar-daddies because of the lack of a proper relationship with their fathers. I think it is so true. We also had a boys-moms service where the moms poured out their hearts concerning what they desired for their sons. It was so beautiful. And it touched me to see how we do things as children never realizing how deeply they hurt our parents. And the only way to know what they desire is to make an effort to spend time with them. We go out of our way to make time for friends, rarely do we do the same for our folks. My mother isn’t so talkative and she doesn’t like going out, but I spend time with her in a different way, we do our nails and mask our faces together once a week and watch TV together. She’s with me on that a guy has to be good-looking, for the children’s sake, lol.
Talks with dad also teach me just how differently men and women think. It’s insane to think God took woman out of man when they are so different. My conclusion is always “boys are stupid” every time he shows me how guys look at things. It’s bizarre really. But I’m so honoured to have a dad to walk me through that. And it’s forever my prayer that I be the kind of parent he is when I have kids. So ja, living at home can be a massive pain, but it has its blessings, I just have to remember that. I can’t leave you without a verse: “The eye that mocks a father, that scorns obedience to a mother, will be pecked out by the ravens of the valley, will be eaten by the vultures” Proverbs 30:17
One thing he and me have in common is our talkativeness. Boy do we talk, and about so many things; politics, religion, technology, education, you name it. But one which has a secret place in my heart is his advices on marriage and choosing a life partner. Well at first he announced that none of his girls were going to marry, and for a month he actually made us believe him. But it wore off the more he faced reality. In our conversations, I love how he is so open and transparent, more especially about his days as a young man. I also love it every time he re-tells how he ended up with my mother (emphasis on the ‘re-tell’, he’s growing older, so he tends to repeat his stories). But what I love most about all he says is that it gives me a clear picture of what he desires for me. It might not be that ‘tall, light and handsome’ picture I’ve painted for myself, but it is so much better in so many ways. This has caused that, on top of being kept in purity by God’s might, I desire all the more to wait for my prince-charming. Because it is not so easy to settle for less and disappoint him when I know exactly what his expectations are. This helps a lot in the face of temptation. The guy can be as hot as Nate Parker and sing like Brenden, but if he aint what my Daddy in heaven sent, nor the picture my dad painted, I’ll pass.
My friend was inspired to have a girls-dads service at our kids camp cause she realized that so many girls fall prey to these sugar-daddies because of the lack of a proper relationship with their fathers. I think it is so true. We also had a boys-moms service where the moms poured out their hearts concerning what they desired for their sons. It was so beautiful. And it touched me to see how we do things as children never realizing how deeply they hurt our parents. And the only way to know what they desire is to make an effort to spend time with them. We go out of our way to make time for friends, rarely do we do the same for our folks. My mother isn’t so talkative and she doesn’t like going out, but I spend time with her in a different way, we do our nails and mask our faces together once a week and watch TV together. She’s with me on that a guy has to be good-looking, for the children’s sake, lol.
Talks with dad also teach me just how differently men and women think. It’s insane to think God took woman out of man when they are so different. My conclusion is always “boys are stupid” every time he shows me how guys look at things. It’s bizarre really. But I’m so honoured to have a dad to walk me through that. And it’s forever my prayer that I be the kind of parent he is when I have kids. So ja, living at home can be a massive pain, but it has its blessings, I just have to remember that. I can’t leave you without a verse: “The eye that mocks a father, that scorns obedience to a mother, will be pecked out by the ravens of the valley, will be eaten by the vultures” Proverbs 30:17
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